Always be at peace…
|| reminder: being at peace is a non-negotiable. ||
Well, here I am in my thoughts as I hear the sound of the rain against my window pane…(what song is that? :)
Personally, it’s very challenging for me to intentionally rest. I always feel like I have to be busy doing something, and if I’m not I’m being “lazy”. Here to tell you that is far from the truth, I know. Rest is essential to our overall health.
Lately, I haven’t felt motivated to write. I’ve been inspired here and there, but nothing that’s really pulled me in. I’ve been focused with big projects at work, binge watching Stranger Things, working on my Pilates practice, and honestly just life. My mind has been cluttered and all over the place, and I needed a personal project. Some people workout, others get a massage or read- whatever draws your mind at peace, tune into that!
My apartment seemed boring and not homey and I needed to do something about it otherwise my mind would continue to feel cluttered.
It wasn’t until recently one of my closest friends reached out to me with this message…
A rewarding and peaceful reminder. Forever grateful for your unconditional supportive and nurturing friendship.
Seasons
Have you ever taken a step back and looked at all of the different people in this world? Let’s take my recent airport adventure for example- the amount of various conversations that were going on (with strangers and not) and the unique people that were filling the halls is wild. We are all individuals floating through life differently. Our experiences are different. Our perspectives are different. Our desires are different. How we move and the decisions we make are all different- and yet there is are common goals.
Peace
Security
Financial freedom
Safety
Family
Health
Happiness
I was having a conversation with a family member recently about missing the college days when we would go to class and work and be surrounded by our friends all the time. My experience was like a big private island where you were always having a good time with great people, or going through life together in our own seasons, and not alone.
Change isn’t always exciting for people. Research shows that we tend to resist change based on social, psychological, physical, and neurological factors. The “Change Curve” below is a visual representation of our journey with change. As shared by bethechange,
Resistance to change is actually very normal. Some reasons for it stem from how are brains are hardwired (the neuronal reasons); some stem from our psychological needs; some stem from our sociological needs; and some reasons are just that we might not like the practical effect a change might have on us.
Boundaries & Roots
As we grow, our own worlds start to evolve and drift. We all develop our own routines and have our own seasons we experience. We learn we have to be more intentional with spending time with our family and friends. When we assume that people know how to show up for us, without having a conversation as to what that looks like, the people don’t necessarily fail us, we fail our own misunderstanding. Everyone is experiencing life in their own way. I’m not saying that if someone doesn’t show up for you the way you needed them in that moment is ok, but more so for us to understand life is tricky. Grace, boundaries and reciprocity is respected.
We also learn how to be more intentional with self. To not get lost and to stay grounded in our roots, Faith, values and morals. If something or someone isn’t serving your mental peace, it’s ok to fall back or move around. Protect yourself and your boundaries at all cost. Additionally, try not to block your blessings. Understand what is real, genuine, and authentic. Listen carefully and pray for understanding. You are so much more capable of greatness vs. limiting yourself off of noise, distraction, and disbelief.
“Address me as such. Address me as today.” -Teyana Taylor
Looking back at myself years ago, I don’t know who that person was 2, 5, even 10 years ago. That was a different season of my life. A season of fun, experimenting, evolving, living wild and free, growing, change, and moments to be proud of and thankful for.
Live life without regrets but also be responsible and mature in your decisions. A growth mindset looks like, “ I could have handled this differently or now I know what to do better in the future. “ Not off the flex of your friends or what other people think- choose what will make you happy because at the end of the day it’s your life and your decisions.
Time isn’t our friend. Timing is everything. You never know who you are bringing light to. You never know thinking of someone may cause you or them to reach out because you’re on each other’s minds. You never realize how much of an impact you have by checking in. Check out the New York Times Article, Texting Your Friends Means More Than You Know.
Peace
For every season we are in, I hope we find growth, peace and embrace change.
When I decorate, I crave spaces that are inviting and homey- makes you feel good when you walk in. Recently, I haven’t felt that way with my apartment. I love entertaining and lately I’ve found myself distant and isolated. My apartment needed a face lift. Some feng shui, but I was overwhelmed and didn’t know where to start- so I reached out to my resources, my family.
My uncle is an incredible interior designer. When I reached out to him to help with my cluttered mind and space he had a vision. It took some patience and listening on my end, but eventually I threw my hands in the air and we got to work. Rearranging my furniture and fixing up my art and giving my bedding a face lift was just the refresher I needed. The peace of mind to bring me back to feeling at ease.
Making transitional decisions and being confident and connected to your why will guide your mind and heart. Choose peace. Live on your terms as you should. Surround yourself with quality over quantity. Overall, always be at peace, and sometimes you just got to remember who the fuck you are and get that dusty dirt off your shoulders!
